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JustLearn. A second look at your first impression. Early impressions can guide

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attention without being promoted immediately into a complete account of a person.

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This edition uses synthetic narration.

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Keep the impression provisional. Someone is quiet at a gathering, and you

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decide they are uninterested. Another person is lively and you assume they

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are easy to know. Either impression may contain something useful, but each

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begins with a narrow sample of behaviour in one setting. Try wording

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the observation without closing the case: ‘They spoke very little this evening’

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rather than ‘They have nothing to say.’ The smaller sentence leaves room

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for context, including circumstances you do not know. It also makes it

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easier to recognise later evidence instead of filtering everything through the first

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label.

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Look for a different setting. If the relationship matters, notice how the

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person behaves elsewhere. A quiet group participant may contribute thoughtfully in a

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smaller conversation. An entertaining acquaintance may or may not show the same

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interest when somebody else needs attention. You do not need to manufacture

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tests. Ordinary encounters provide different demands: planning something, listening to an unfamiliar

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view or responding to a small inconvenience. Ask what is repeated and

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what seems specific to the situation. Your interpretation can become more detailed

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without becoming either suspicious or unquestioningly generous.

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Allow new information to change the label. Once you have described somebody

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to yourself, it can be uncomfortable to revise the account. You may

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overlook a kind act because it does not fit ‘selfish’, or excuse

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an inconsiderate one because it conflicts with ‘charming’. Keep returning to the

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behaviour itself. Choose one impression you hold and identify the observations behind

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it. Which are repeated? Which are interpretations? What might you still need

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to learn before making a consequential decision about the person? First impressions

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are useful beginnings to attention. They become less useful when they prevent

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the relationship from supplying any new information.

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A question to take with you. What have I observed more than

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once, and what did I decide after a single moment? First published

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by JustLearn. Read the original article at justlearn dot online.