Life Skills & Relationships

A gift or favour becomes complicated when the giver and recipient understand different obligations to have been created.

An exciting idea becomes easier to share when responsibilities, decisions and limits are clear before the first disagreement.

Useful guidance helps another person make better choices within their own circumstances, including choices you would not have made.

An outcome becomes useful when you describe what happened accurately, including the parts it cannot explain.

Not every quiet moment needs to be filled. A little unstructured attention can give you space to notice what is already on your mind.

Another person’s visible achievement may be interesting without becoming the standard by which your whole life is judged.

Sharing responsibilities requires attention to time, effort and constraints, not simply dividing a visible list in half.

A public exchange can shift from solving a problem to winning support. Notice when the audience becomes part of the argument.

A convenient way to speak is not always a convenient way for somebody else to receive the information.

Before replying to the tone you heard in a message, check whether that tone was actually supplied by the sender.